Listener Questions: Real Life, Real Regulation: Heather and Lori
In this first-ever listener question episode of Chitty Chats with Stacy, we’re diving into something so many of us quietly carry:
👉 How do you start taking care of yourself when everyone else is used to you taking care of them?
Heather asks a powerful question about navigating self-care as a midlife mom, partner, and eldest daughter—and what it means to shift long-standing patterns of overgiving.
We also explore:
- Why your nervous system feels “stretched” (the rubber band effect)
- How self-care is actually modeling, not selfishness
- What it looks like to reclaim time without guilt
- The power of predictability and communication when setting boundaries
- How to begin saying “no” when you’ve never been shown how
PLUS:
A second listener question on how to stay grounded when your kids’ emotions feel like a rollercoaster—and what co-regulation actually looks like in real life.
A second listener question on how to stay grounded when your kids’ emotions feel like a rollercoaster—and what co-regulation actually looks like in real life.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to recognize when you’re over-functioning
- Why boundaries feel uncomfortable (and why that’s normal)
- Practical ways to “dose” regulation into your daily life
- How to stay steady when others are not
Key Takeaway:
Taking care of yourself doesn’t take away from others—it allows you to show up safer, steadier, and more present.
Taking care of yourself doesn’t take away from others—it allows you to show up safer, steadier, and more present.
Have a question you want answered on the podcast?
📩 Email me: stacy@gobeyou.org
Creators and Guests
Host
Stacy G. Nation, LCSW
Stacy Nation, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker, educator, and military behavioral health leader who has spent two decades helping adults and children regulate, reconnect, and heal. As an early Phase 2 certified clinician in the Neurosequential Model, Stacy blends neuroscience, trauma-informed practice, and real-world classroom experience to help educators steady themselves before they steady their students.
